It depends on the goal for the courtship. Are you looking for a partner to which to spend your time? Or are you looking for an alliance toward a shared goal.
[He pauses.]
But in either case it is a matter of perception. What does this romantic interest of yours enjoy?
[he gives him an awkward peck on the cheek before turning his own face away]
It's—I'm not entirely certain. I told someone that I would be courting her, so I thought perhaps my demonstrations should be romantic, though she is not a romantic interest, that's all.
Ah. Then the first step might seem trivial or even insulting, but 'tis simple.
Listen.
Truly listen to not only their words, but their tone and language. From there much will be revealed. And from there you can start building the relationship. Most people cannot help but talk of themselves especially when prompted with interest.
If learning how to read and inspire others is your wish, then consider that your first set of homework. If not, such is our wont as well. It can be a tiring thing.
This person likes games, guns, coffee, reading, and—Christmas. I've seen her painting on a bench in the park. She enjoys being around people and making friends. As for dislikes, nothing stands out. On our date, we spoke of things we liked, and that was the focus.
But I could not tell you a thing about Yvette and Lily, nothing that is as simple as that.
[This feels much more constructive than destroying his kingdom, truthfully.]
If she enjoys this festival, decorate her room or give here those red flowers --- ah, they had a name that sounded sharp and pointed that I can't recall. Or start a holiday tradition together.
If you already have had a date, you have defeated the hardest part. Catching their eye.
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I suppose I would start with asking what are you looking for?
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[He pauses.]
But in either case it is a matter of perception. What does this romantic interest of yours enjoy?
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This person is not a "romantic interest." She is someone I merely need to charm.
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Unless they have a large ego and simply enjoy being flattered.
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I do not know what she needs, but she does enjoy—[too many things]—games, guns, coffee...
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Rather than limit yourself to the waking world, I would use dreams to set the perfect stage.
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You've enticed my curiosity and I do like puzzles. Is this a short or a long term endeavor?
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It's—I'm not entirely certain. I told someone that I would be courting her, so I thought perhaps my demonstrations should be romantic, though she is not a romantic interest, that's all.
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Listen.
Truly listen to not only their words, but their tone and language. From there much will be revealed. And from there you can start building the relationship. Most people cannot help but talk of themselves especially when prompted with interest.
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Unless your mind has changed on your ultimate goal.
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I will listen to her, then... but I do not know if that is enough to prove anything.
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If you were try to influence Lily or Yvette, how would you go about it?
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But we should start with the beginning. What have you observed with each? Their likes. Their dislikes. Their passions.
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...
[sssiighs, again, he's like this and i'm sorry]
This person likes games, guns, coffee, reading, and—Christmas. I've seen her painting on a bench in the park. She enjoys being around people and making friends. As for dislikes, nothing stands out. On our date, we spoke of things we liked, and that was the focus.
But I could not tell you a thing about Yvette and Lily, nothing that is as simple as that.
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If she enjoys this festival, decorate her room or give here those red flowers --- ah, they had a name that sounded sharp and pointed that I can't recall. Or start a holiday tradition together.
If you already have had a date, you have defeated the hardest part. Catching their eye.
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[he won't comment on anything else, his awkwardness is continuing to seep in]
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It is a tactic I've found quite successful.
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